Why Russian women seek husbands in America?

If you ask women this question, the answers will be:

I want my children to be happy and have a secure future, and it's impossible with the current situation in Russia.

There are not enough men in Russia to find a good husband.

Russian men do not appreciate good women.

All the statements are true to a huge extent. But at the same time none of them gives you a real reason.

The real and fundamental reason why women look for a life partner abroad is that they are not happy in their love life and cannot find a suitable partner in Russia. It's that simple!

The demographic reason behind that is that there are 10 million more women in Russia than men, or only 88 men for 100 women. Some Russian women are destined to be single. The cultural notion for Russian women is to get married and have a family; this is the necessary condition of success for a Russian woman. This is why even successful career women feel unfulfilled if they don't have a husband and family, and some of them use search for a partner abroad as an option. They do it because they want to meet a suitable partner for marriage.

Married Russian women, even if they are struggling with everyday surviving and not happy with Russian family model, won't divorce their Russian husbands to look for a foreign husband.

Russian women do not choose between Russian men and foreign men. They choose between staying single for life and having their own family.

Russian women want marriage, to love and be loved. Security and a better life go as a part of the package.

Are Russian women's personalities different from Western women?

Yes, they are different. They are human beings and they are definitely not perfect. The main difference is that they are much more patient and can tolerate things that Western women will never be able to bear. They are more considerate and dependable. They are partners, not competitors.

Another important difference is that Russian women (and Russians in general) have very low self-esteem. While Western women think that they are goddesses and able to cope with anything on their own, a Russian woman will rarely leave a bad (really BAD) husband because of the fear that she won't find another one. For many years the state and men have been oppressing them, and they don't think much about themselves.

Russian women are well groomed, stylish, educated and intelligent (as are Russians in general) but they pay less attention to sport, diets, etc. Nevertheless, they are rarely overweight - they still walk a lot because they don't have cars, and don't eat junk food, which is considered expensive. They do not have to make an effort to live healthy - it just comes natural.

Are Russian women interested in living in any other countries apart from America? Seems most of the ladies are only interested in America.

Can Russian women speak English?

Most of the ladies who apply to dating agencies can at least read and understand English.

They all study English at school for 7 years (Grades 5-11). English is a compulsory subject at universities and colleges and one will not be able to get her degree without completing a 3-year course of English through her tertiary education. In bigger cities like Moscow and St Petersburg more people speak English well than in regional cities.

So if your lady has a degree, she has studied English for 10 years!

About 20% of women speak English well, and other 30% can communicate on a decent level; others who never used the language in their life forget it with the time and can only read and translate - but the base is there, so they are usually able to start speaking English fluently in 6-8 months when living in an English speaking country.

What kind of a sense of humor do Russian women generally have? Do they laugh a lot or very little?

Russian women have a great sense of humor, otherwise they won't be able to survive in this country. They laugh about things instead of complaining.

Though they smile very little it the streets and in everyday life, it's not because they have no sense of humor, but because they do not usually smile without a reason. If you meet somebody's sight, she will usually just look back but never smile.

The sense of humor they have is also different. Russian women prefer very fine type of jokes, with indirect humor that westerners would describe as dry. Russians do not find it funny when somebody falls, and they consider many western comedies being silly. Loud laughing at background in sitcoms they find irritating and stupid. When somebody makes a joke or tells a funny story, he will usually do it with very serious expression on the face, and he will spoil everything if laughs with others.

Is there a considerable difference between Russian women and other women of the former Soviet Union - for example, Ukrainian or Belarussian?

There are some particular cultural differences between women from different countries of the former Soviet Union.

Ukrainian women are more outgoing and open, Russian women are more reserved. At the same time a Ukrainian wife is more likely to argue about the things than a Russian woman. But of course that mostly depends on personality not nationality.

Would a Russian lady be interested in living in a small town?

The majority of Russian ladies seem to be rather cosmopolitan. The reason is that in Russia living in a small town or village is a nightmare. There are very poor life conditions, dirtiness, no entertainment, no goods to buy, even TV reception may be not available. Russian ladies do not know and understand the difference between small towns in Russia and abroad, and they just have this instinctive fear towards small towns.

Is it true that most of Russian women seeking men are prostitutes or ex-prostitutes?

NO, IT IS NOT TRUE. I have answered this question in Myth 3 of the section Myths and Reality, but I have been asked again and again.

THEY ARE NOT PROSTITUTES OR EX-PROSTITUTES. Perhaps a few simple reasons will convince you.

Reason #1. To be a prostitute, there must be clients who are able to pay for sex. But with Russian reality almost nobody has enough money for this type of expense. The one who has money doesn't have problems with women - they will love to make an acquaintance with a well-to-do guy. Probably the only places in Russia where a hooker can make some money for a living are Moscow and St. Petersburg - there are many visitors with money. In regional cities there are nobody who is able and willing to pay for sex.

Reason #2. In Russia there are so many women available, you don't need to pay to make love.

Reason #3. An educated intelligent woman - and most of Russian women seeking partners ARE intelligent and well educated - will never even think about this way of making a living.

I am not going to elaborate. I am sick and tired of people considering me as a gold digger or a woman with improper past. Russian women are human beings, and they just want to be happy. It's the real and only reason why they look for partners abroad.

Another thing that can confuse men - Russian women have completely different style of dressing, and a decent woman can look like a girl from Hollywood boulevard. Russian women are very fond of short skirts and makeup, that's it, no hidden agenda. For them it's impossible to understand how a woman can dress like most of females over here - jeans, T-shirt and trainers.

Is it true that nearly 80 percent of Russian women smoke?

No, it's not true. Some of Russian women do smoke but not more than 5-10%. In the large cities like Moscow or St Petersburg, the percentage can be probably about 15%.

What about stories of ladies coming to the US and leaving shortly after the marriage?

It may happen. Not that often as media say, but it is a fact of reality. The biggest danger of the myths the dating agencies spread is that they make men hope that a young beautiful Russian lady will love an old unattractive American guy just because he lives in a better country and can guarantee her security.

Some 50-year-old men dream about a 18-year-old girl, find her, marry, and then say that Russian women just want to get into the country. They would have never been in such a situation if pursued marriage to a woman 35+.

In Russia some people don't live decently, and some Russian women are ready to do anything to live a better life. Once in a relationship with a foreign guy, a woman feels happy to be loved and cared for, and is grateful for changing her life for the better. She may even feel in love when it's just a temporary intoxication.

Russian women are used to sacrificing themselves for children, and if she has a child, she can agree to almost anything to ensure that he is safe, will always food on the table and money for education.

A Russian woman can be unhappy in her marriage and still feel lucky to have a better than average life standards. Russian woman is entitled to feel happy if her husband does not drink and has a good job; nobody talks about love, it's not important. If a woman has a rich husband (a person owning a car, an apartment, and earning more than $400 a month), people will think she is crazy or stupid if leaving him for love.

But good standards of living are everything only for the poverty-ridden. When Russian women are in a country like USA, their attitude changes very quickly. Love and rewarding sexual life are important conditions of happiness. A lady was probably not going to divorce her older husband from the very beginning, but at a later stage she starts to feel miserable and realizes that she plugged herself into a worse situation than she was previously in. It's two different worlds, not just two different cultures.

A successful marriage can only be based on love and mutual respect whether it's a Russian woman or a Western one. Your foreign citizenship can make you more attractive to Russian women but it can't make your marriage more successful. Russian women make good wives - that's true, but only if she wants to be your wife.

Source: Elena Petrova - Cyber Guide